What was so bad about last year that needs resolving? (Don’t answer that.)
In my opinion, here are the problems with New Year’s Resolutions:
1. Looking back… You base your resolutions on things you don’t like about the year before. Admirable, but how is focusing on the negatives from the year before going to help you be positive in the new year?
2. It’s a set up! You give yourself such high things to aspire to and will only hate yourself more when you can’t acheive them.
3. Who can remember that much? Let’s say you keep your list short and only make 3-5 resolutions. Life happens, will you remember all of those things in 6 months?
Who wants this kind of pressure? Not Kikita, I can tell you that much.
“But, Kikita! don’t you have goals? Or some way to differentiate between one year and the next? How can you not make resolutions?!?”
Yes, I do.
It’s called “One Little Word.”
I learned it from Ali Edwards*.
“And what do you do with this one little word? You live with it. You invite it into you life. You let it speak to you. You might even follow where it leads. There are so many possibilities.” ~ Ali Edwards
You pick a word and it becomes a sort of mantra. It is your answer to everything. A sort of mantra. It can be something you want to be more of, something you want to be less of, something you used to be and want to get back to.
Last year my word was AMAZING, but I told everyone else my word was YES. (I was feel rather saucy the day someone asked.)
So really, I had two words…. *shrug*
It’s a Gemini thing.
How can you fail yourself with just a word?
So you’re already setting yourself up for success.
Besides, if you say something enough to yourself, eventually you’ll believe it.
This may be hard to fathom, but there was a time when I did not find myself amazing. O_O
Now? Just about everyone I know finds me amazing. (Some more than others.)
In fact, it is almost annoying how amazed some people are by me.
And I am amazing because I chose to be. Not because I was trying to resolve something from the year before.
And one (or, as in my case, two) word is a whole lot easier to remember than a list of things like “Go to the gym more.”
So maybe I need to pick two words again for this year… and you know what’s great? You can keep your words from last year if you’d like.
I KNOW I will have amazing moments this year.
The words I’ve chosen for 2012 are…
BRAVE: Bold, Intrepid, Daring, Dauntless, Heroic. BRAVE, courageous, valiant, fearless, gallant refer to confident bearing in the face of difficulties or dangers. BRAVE is the most comprehensive: it is especially used of that confident fortitude or daring that actively faces and endures anything threatening.
SHINE: Glow, Glisten, Glimmer, Sparkle, Shimmer
I’m sure some people might think that I already am these things, but I want to really focus on them this year.
I want to have adventures.
And I believe that every day life can be an adventure if you let it.
*Ok, Mami learned it from Ali Edwards and shared the idea. I read up on it, tried it last year, and loved it.